Committment and questions...............

It is a fact that the scariest thing in a person life is commitment. Whether it's a marriage to a man, a marriage to a home or a new vehicle, they are all investments and you work to make them all happy and working right.  I talked to a friend the other day and she was torn...torn between 2 individuals in her life who mean so much and just didn't know which direction to go in.
As a woman you find that you want to reach certain goals in your life ...it doesn't matter what they are you set them for yourself. but once they are set you must reach them or you feel you've failed your self.  In my friends situation she's been married for many years and she's made decisions that affect her family but this time it's about her and she chose happiness. 
There are so many individuals out there today who aren't able to make those decisions, and I think you need to be in a certain place in your life to just say "it's my turn".  God knows I've been through trials through out my life and I can remember the day I decided it's my turn.  From that day forward I made decisions to benefit myself as well as my children.  Some may not have been the best but I believed they were the right ones. 
Many days I recall all these days and years..questioning myself ...........wondering if I've done the right things over the years. when I cried, did I cry for the right reasons?.  When I fought, was the fight a winning battle, when I loved, did I love the right people?
 There are many individuals in my life who I care about and I worry about. Many today have come back and just said "thank you".  That helps me realize the tears the battles and the love wasn't wasted.