You don't need him to know your beautiful

So I spent some time with a friend today who broke my heart. We started having a "catch up " conversation , it was so great seeing her and she started crying.  I was shocked, this individual is always so happy and so amazing and now she's sobbing in my lap.  This woman has everything, home amazing children great friends and a husband of many years.  She cried to me ....and cried and cried, I didn't know what to do.  She then said to me ......"my husband never notices me" he never tells me I'm beautiful and never tells me I look nice " She told me she couldn't' remember the last time he said "you look nice today".  

I was very sad for her, this conversation triggered many memories I had but it wasn't about me.  She pondered on many different reasons why he may not notice her anymore.   They have been married for many years and she feels that maybe he just has become content.

I didn't know what to say to her to make her feel better........but I know what I would do in this situation.  I feel that in this situation when your man stops noticing you and stops complimenting you he's no longer looking at you. Contentment is minor  but when a man stops complimenting his wife, the woman he committed to love and adore for the rest of his life, only mean's he's done and really doesn't feel your beautiful and/or you look nice and all the rest is just to get through the rest of the day.

It's unfortunate but it's reality.  It's hard to hear, or even realize that the man you've committed to for so many years or so little years has stopped feeling that  your beautiful. Women need recognition from their lover, husband , partner ...soul-mate that they are still beautiful and loved. It's just what we need. You can be a CEO, a DOCTOR or WAITRESS ............women are built the same. No matter how strong we are or we portray to be we need to hear from you, it's what drives us to be better, happy and successful.

So I told my friend..........Fuck him.  forget him....Let him forget you because no matter with or with out him you are beautiful, others see you and even though he's your man, if he can't work it, someone else will.

She laughed,............


Then.............we cried!