I have many friends from diverse walks of life and for me its unique because I'm unique as well. I have this veiw of acceptance, no bullshit and damn my family all together comes first. I don't take crap from any one or any man for that matter, however... my hubby and I but heads occasionally. I love who I am and I love that I hold true to my ethics and values and don't allow a man or anyone for that matter to manipulate who I am . I had a colleague tell me once. " he's unhappy because I put my kids first and I don't give him enough sex". Today they are divorced....
Naturally I fell out of my chair and went on a OH HELL NO rampage. I was devastated that this beautiful woman who had the most amazing spirit who loved her children and husband so much was put in a position to choose. I don't know what happened in the end but I be a million dollars she put her kids first.
My point is women are beautiful no matter what size, style, personality etc....we are amazing. But at the same time we need to hold true to ourself and not allow our ethics to be manipulated. I can browse through people I know and state my opinion but every one is so unique, it makes me wonder why a man ( or women) wouldn't love someone even with the changes as much as he / she loved them in the beginning.
I am a very analytical person and I watch my husband doing his thing and wonder, "damn why does he still love me' I have become such a bitch over the years (laughing while I write this) I am hard core..I am ok with having NO friends because I don't need drama and I want his attention alllll the time. Poor guy has to put up with my shit! I gained 50 pounds since we've been married I don't work as hard as I should to lose that weight. I'm always sick....Oh my Goodness! And this amazing man still loves me, still accepts me and doesn't need to be someone different who he was 13 yrs ago when we met.
I want all my girl friends to know you are all gorgeous, successful and independent even if you don't think you are. We have the power to rule the world and men I believe are just fricken afraid that we will.
It isn't every day you meet those who you LOVE the be a part of. We met Melissa and Cameron on accident when we joined our friend Jerry Gomes at bike week. (Thank you Jerry) Melissa and I had so much in common we couldn't stop talking. It was instant friendship...talking about family, our occupations, dreams and bigger dreams. They are the type of people who you can be just yourself with, those who never judge or expect anything.
We were invited to join their family for the 4th of July in Oceanside, CA. We arrived and it was their family, their sisters, brothers family, aunt and uncle's family and the Gomes family and Grandma and Grandpa. Even with 23 people together for 5 days we had fun, we laughed, and even cried a few times. Walked a mile in other peoples shoes as those others in ours. Danced on the beach, rode the waves and made sand castles.
All weekend we all came together to make sure meals were made and bathes were done. Everyone knew where they were sleeping and some even just didn't care and hit the floor. Hair wasn't perfect, clothes were sometimes dirty and even some unnecessary conversation happened over a few adult drinks. However, in the end with a group of the travelling 23 it was the best time I've had with friends in such a long time. I can honestly say I created a friendship which will last forever.
OH Yeah, I won't forget the 5 dogs, 1 cat, a bird and a beta fish.
Thank you for the most amazing time and memories made with our family. I will never forget you even though your moving already! Oh yeah I didn't cry until now! :0)
I thank GOD for his many blessings!
